Being Intentional About Singing in the Kitchen

Speedy and I like to run around the kitchen exuberantly dancing and singing. Everything from nursery rhymes and Christmas songs to the latest pop hits. We laugh about our ridiculous moves until the dogs perk up their ears and stare as they try to figure out what they’re missing. Sometimes this fun erupts into two-year-old tears, but usually it’s just silly, spontaneous playtime.

  
Our life can often feel chaotic. Our home features the above mentioned two-year-old, two big dogs, and two less-than-neat adults. It is also a busy dairy operating 365 days a year with farm employees, twice daily milk truck pickup, and feed/supply/service deliveries. I won’t lie; at times things feel overwhelming and I wonder how we can keep doing ALL THE THINGS. But I’m also good at intentionally finding the joy. That saves me. I love seeing Speedy smile and laugh – whether looking at new calves or dancing in the kitchen. We carve out little precious bits of family time because it’s a value we want to weave into the core of his life.

I also deeply value talking with JR over coffee on the mornings that aren’t too crazy. Or it’s good to get tasty takeout pizza and unwind and talk instead of cooking when we’ve had an especially long workday. We have to find time to talk and reflect and laugh. If life becomes nothing but work and stress about work then what are we really doing?

It’s no secret on this blog that I intentionally make time to run. I don’t always have to be racing or training, but I need those miles of cool morning solitude or those afternoons of happy chatter as I run with Speedy in the stroller. Mentally and emotionally it is so important for me to put in those miles, and I’ve finally realized I don’t need to apologize or explain why.

I enjoy my time volunteering to teach elementary kids at church each Wednesday afternoon, and I intentionally spend these hours because I feel and see the difference it makes. I also bring Speedy to worship as often as I can, and we focus on mealtime and bedtime prayers. Hearing his emphatic little “Amen” makes my heart swell. I certainly have a lot of stumbles and worries in my faith journey, and I see my own failings so much more clearly as a parent. But I pray for guidance and a joyful heart as I do my best to model values of love and acceptance and service. Speedy soaks up everything like a little sponge at this age, as I was eloquently reminded of by this post from The Art in Life called “Creating an Intentional Family Culture”. 

I don’t keep up with many blogs at the moment, but this post popped up in my feed at just the right time to resonate. My son is only a few months older than the blog author, Hannah, and I think we’re both in the same place with a lot of parenting milestones – though our everyday lives are drastically different.

I’ve always had thoughts on being intentional about love and faith and care for my child, but parenting is more than even that. Over the past few months I have gotten better at having Speedy help me with household tasks like filling the washing machine or dryer and putting away dishes. Often the chores take longer, but that’s not the point. I hadn’t thought about it until I read this post, but it’s part of creating the family culture we want. We believe in teamwork, helping each other, and trying to offer a comfortable hospitality. I am far from a perfectionist about my house, but some things have to be done.

It’s more important for me to offer someone a hot cup of coffee and kind words than perfectly sanitized countertops, and that will probably always be my normal. Maybe Speedy will grow up to be neater than I, but that’s less important than the values that come through us working together. At age two it’s easy to assume I should do most things for my son, and then I’ll feel stressed that I’m not doing enough. If I have the courage and patience to start doing more hand-in-hand together he can take joy in the learning journey and in the result.

I don’t have everything figured out, and being intentional with my time, pursuits, and values is something I’ll always be working on. Reflecting and writing helps me, and sometimes priorities will indeed change. I am hopeful I will always make time to sing and dance in the kitchen with my kids joyfully leading the charge.

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Cold April Means Time to Think Summer and Ice Cream: Vote for your Fav!

By any measure it has been a rough spring in Minnesota and throughout the U.S. We had a blizzard last weekend – SERIOUSLY – with howling winds and a foot of snow. South of us it was even worse with snow totals approaching two feet and wintry conditions as far as Iowa and Nebraska. The snow is fast becoming slush, but April has broken quite a few records for both cold and snow.




New England had their own wicked April storm that kept going right through the weekend until Marathon Monday and the Boston Marathon  Rain, wind, and the coldest starting temperatures in 30 years just above freezing greeted tens of thousands of runners who had trained through a long winter. I checked in on several friends who were running and followed along on twitter with both news media and runners.  Side note: if you’re interested in women’s sports, historic races, the Boston area, or just an amazing feel-good story you should read about this year’s Boston Marathon Champion, Desiree Linden. Some might say I’m “boring”, but my favorite spectator sports are baseball and running. I’ve followed Linden’s career for a long time, and I was ecstatic for this win.

This post isn’t actually about winter or running though. So let’s get to the bacon. Yes, I said bacon. I’m talking about turning your thoughts to summer, ice cream, and Minnesota State Fair time. The Dairy Goodness Bar at the state fair always features amazing ice cream sundaes, malts, milk, cheese and other dairy treats. For three years going on four they have also dreamed up and served up some unique creations. In spring they develop three flavor combos, let people vote on the options, and then they put the winning flavor on their menu for the twelve days of the fair.

2018 Flavor of the Fair

Don’t these look exciting?!?

I’m intrigued by “Sweet Heat,” but I REALLY want to try the breakfast malt with maple syrup, mini-pancakes and bacon! I realize the s’mores flavor might seem like a “safer” choice (and it’s currently winning) but it’s just not as fun. No matter what you like best, visit the website here to read about the ingredients and vote for your favorite!  Voting ends next week on April 24th.

Which flavor is calling your name? Any last winter woes you need to share?

 

 

 

 

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Birthday Fun, Easter, Racing, and April Snow

Minnesota weather is never boring. Last month as we got several big March snowstorms I reasoned that it hadn’t been a bad winter, overall. December and January had plenty of bitter cold, but snowfall in our little pocket of the state was manageable. March was snowy, and we pushed more snow than we had all winter. Then April arrived. 

Easter morning on April 1st dawned clear and cold at about 10 degrees, and the next day brought a solid foot of snow. Early yesterday morning, April 5th, the temperature read a brisk 1 degree BELOW zero, and this weekend the forecast is to get another 3-6 inches of snow.
So we smile and carry on and say very Minnesotan things like, “Is it cold enough for ya?”

  

In the midst of this cold spell my baby turned two. My sweet Easter baby is now a sweet little boy, and his zest and energy makes me both tired and more thankful to be his mama than anything else in the whole world. 

      
We ate cake and opened presents twice – plus once at daycare – and dyed Easter eggs too. He loved ripping into his cards and tissue paper, and a shiny red bike and a large horse called Blaze weren’t bad either. 😉

  

  
Earlier in March, on probably the nicest day of the year so far, Speedy and I ran a 7K on St Patrick’s Day together. I raced better than I expected considering I’d been running easy, low heart rate, slow as molasses pace most of the winter. Slowly and deliberately building a killer aerobic base is my latest running focus. 

    
Pushing a stroller on a hilly course I averaged about 3 minutes faster per mile than my typical runs this winter. If that isn’t an advertisement for easy effort heart rate training I don’t know what is! And Speedy loved flying along as people cheered for us in our green outfits and bright orange stroller. 

  
As I dream about more pleasant weather for spring and summer races I’ll have a new piece of gear in my toolbox.  Just this week something orange arrived in the mail. Finally I have a Team Chocolate Milk tank top! I just hope sometime it’s warm enough to wear it. 😂

   

  
With that, tell me your tales of warm sunshine and budding trees OR tell me about the snow in your yard and how it’s just as cold where you are.
 

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In the News: Farming, Cold Weather, and More

Happy Friday – if you happen to be reading this on the day it’s published that is. 🙂

Spring is in the air in some places, and even in Minnesota I see melting snow and hopes of 30-40 degree temperatures for the weekend.

 
I tend to say I like winter until Christmas or New Year’s Day, and then I’m ready for the snow and cold to go. Unfortunately we usually have 3 months of wintery weather to go at that point. Still, mid-March means we are done with the days where temperatures don’t rise about zero.

Cold winter can spark different opinions and emotions in people, but one thing I have never thought about is cold weather actually fostering a better quality of life.

I saw several friends sharing the newest 2017 state rankings from US News and World Report on social media lately, so I browsed through them earlier this week. Best state overall has Iowa coming in first followed by Minnesota, Utah, North Dakota and New Hampshire. For ‘Quality of Life’ North Dakota comes in first with Minnesota again in second. Wisconsin, New Hampshire, and South Dakota round out the top five. Do you sense a theme here? Not only do all these states have large rural and/or agricultural components, they also have distinct seasons and cold winters. Who would have thought?

To quote from the article, “Another characteristic North Dakota shares with other top-ranked states for quality of life – including Minnesota, Wisconsin, New Hampshire and South Dakota – is its cold weather. “If you’re in a closed environment, you’re interacting with more people,” Berg says, explaining that people tend to separate and “do their own thing” in more comfortable weather. “And then there’s this cultural aspect that you’re in an environment that’s weather-wise a little more difficult so you do have this idea to help your neighbor out when times are tough,” he says.”

For my part, I need to point out that the Midwest doesn’t ALWAYS have cold weather. We actually have reliably hot and humid summers, but we have distinct seasons. When I ponder how seasons relate to quality of life, I think the rhythm and flow of nature actually benefits us as well. We appreciate the warmth of spring more (mud, insects and all) because it follows the icy days of winter. And we yearn for the crisp mornings and orange foliage of fall because it provides a welcome relief from August heat. We typically enjoy fishing on frozen lakes just as much as regular water, and we have parts of every season we can look forward to. We also have other parts we can be glad we aren’t currently dealing with!

I agree cold weather brings people together. You leave behind the chores of yard work, lawn mowing, or endless projects in long daylight and spend more time at community and sporting events. Or you simply stay indoors to enjoy time with close family and friends. You also don’t feel as guilty about calling it an early night and just curling up with a cup of hot tea or glass of wine in the evening.

Every state has individual merits that make it special, and if you look through the various ranking categories you’ll see many warm weather states on the list too. Don’t be offended if you don’t happen to live in a winter wonderland like me, BUT it does make me feel better to see the merits of my climate being touted. Especially because we just had a wicked snow storm a few days ago.

Another story I keep seeing in the news is the low price of milk. I know I follow farm and agricultural media more than most, but even major news outlets such as NPR and The Washington Post are covering the crisis. Obviously non-existent profit margins and mounting bills cause stress on our farm too, and I’m not immune from financial worries. As a farmer often you find yourself spending all your waking hours either working or thinking about working. It’s a lifestyle more than a job, and it’s deeply discouraging to know you are losing money each and every day as you keep going.

Clearly it’s important to take some control and have: a cash flow plan in place, honest conversations with your banker, and steps to minimize expense and maximize revenue and efficiency where you can. But the price of milk is at a low point many dairies simply can’t recover from. It’s terrible to see neighbors around us selling their herd of cows and know those barns will probably never be filled again.

Numerous dairy processing plants and co-ops have even recently included suicide prevention hotlines and mental health resources in with farmer’s milk checks or newsletters.

Can you imagine finding those types of resources tucked in with your paycheck?

So many injustices and heartbreaking stories can be seen around our country and world that I know we as farmers aren’t alone. And we aren’t the worst off –  not by far. I pray for the homeless and refugees and the critically ill before I pray for farmers, but I know all can use our prayers.

I’m also deeply blessed to be a mom and see the smiling face of my almost-two-year-old everyday. Somehow little kids can make everyday brighter and every stressful situation seem less important. We may find ourselves in a difficult year, but no matter what it brings we will work to hopefully come out strong yet compassionate on the other side.

  
What’s on your mind lately? Are you looking forward to spring or relishing the last of winter?

 

 

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What’s Your Olympics?

The Winter Olympics are whizzing by in South Korea, and I’m eagerly taking in the skating, the skiing, the teamwork, and the chronicling of dreams when I have a chance.

There is always something wholesome, gritty, and wondrous about people focusing on a dream for many years and then standing on the cusp of achieving it. With the world watching, athletes from teenagers to fifty-somethings compete in the sports they have perfected. Medal or not, simply being an Olympian is an accomplishment most of us can’t imagine.

But we love the Olympics anyway. We tune in by the millions, and we cheer and swoon as athletes we’ve mostly never heard of chase the clock or the scoreboard. I love to cheer for Lindsey Vonn because she’s a fellow Minnesota girl. She grew up skiing on a hill – literally – just south of Minneapolis. And somehow she developed into arguably the best Apline ski racer in the world. She keeps coming back from debilitating injuries, and it’s easy to wonder how she can still win races as her broken and repaired body ages. Obviously it’s a myriad of reasons, but I think mental toughness and belief are the biggest ones.

Why do we love the Olympics? I suppose it’s because all of us know about dreams. Maybe not an Olympic dream, but we still work and strive and set goals. We go after things we want, and often we fall short. We dedicate our minds and bodies to careers, or we put in long days to take care of our kids or volunteer for causes bigger than us. We hope these investments of our time and care will pay off.

Maybe we even have that periodic event we look forward to and work toward. For dairy farmers who enjoy the show ring they might see World Dairy Expo as their Olympics. As a cheese maker you might set your eye on the World Cheese Awards. (We should all be so lucky as to attend – or simply taste – at the world cheese awards!)

As a runner and marathoner I see many recreational athletes go after goals that fit the same criteria. The fastest amateurs may run toward hitting the Olympic Trials qualifying time in their distance while triathletes hope to earn a spot in a championship race.

Life is busy. At times when farm work seems endless and my house is such a mess of chaos I want to donate everything I own and move into a tent I start thinking my other commitments and goals are silly. (Side note: I would NOT want to move into a tent in Minnesota winter, but it sounds really appealing to downsize come June.)

“How can I continue to spend several hours teaching elementary kids at church on Wednesday afternoons when I don’t even have my own life together? Am I even the right person?”

“How dare I spend an hour running today when my family and my work both desperately need my time too?”

Figuring out how to balance priorities and portion out my time is one of my hardest tasks. I will always hit deadlines for critical bills and paperwork, and we always make sure our animals and child are fed, but other priorities can be harder to decipher. I was glancing through a farm magazine the other day, and this quote stuck out to me like a giant neon sign.

“Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.” -Earl Nightingale

The time will pass anyway; so I may as well intersperse my day with meaningful moments, small victories, and steps toward the goals I want to accomplish. I have goals for creating a more welcoming, cozy, and CLEAN environment in our home. The battle is uphill, but I might as well keep working on it. The time will pass, and I’d rather have a small amount of progress in one or two or three years than none.

There are numerous upgrades and projects we’d like for our farm, and taking small steps is better than taking no steps. Currently the price of milk is so low that we are simply working on survival and paying bills month-to-month. Eventually a season will come where we can chip away at our larger goals again.

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And the running. Ever since I started believing I could run a marathon I have found a peace and a calling to this event. I like to think it’s a blessing God helped me discover so I can be more engaged in the rest of my life. And I think it helps me be a blessing to others when they need it.

I did just run my slowest marathon last year, but that doesn’t stop me from believing I can get faster again. I’m comfortable with some of my goals being on the five or ten year plan because the time will pass anyway. I want to keep running races and achieving personal records, and someday I will qualify for the Boston Marathon. That is MY Olympics. My best time is still about twenty minutes shy of what I need, but that’s ok. If I keep taking small steps (and continue to get older), eventually I’ll find the right time for a training cycle to go after it. And until then I’ll keep running because I love it.

 

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What is your Olympics?

 

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